How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

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Despite what people around you might say, diligence and dedication to even the most seemingly unimportant tasks do more than just reveal your character: it predicts your success. How you do anything is how you do everything. There are plenty of jobs that people might find themselves doing which they’d prefer not to. But one can only earn the right to meaningful work when they have demonstrated that they are deserving of it.

Martin Luther King Jr.

“If a man is called to be a street sweeper. He should sweep streets even as a Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all hosts of heaven and earth pause to say; Here lives a great sweeper who did his job well.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.

@HowYouDo Martin Luther King Jr NYWTSDr. King was fighting for equality at a time when that was not only not a popular buzzword, but when the idea was anathema to much of the American population. He recognized that doing the work our hands find to do well, no matter what sort of work it is, was vital to the health of an oppressed people.

Black people were actively, systemically prevented from many of the sorts of jobs that were considered “dignified” or “respectable.” But Dr. King knew that the work wasn’t dignified or undignified. He knew that if his community could embody the dignity they knew they deserved. If they really owned it and performed well wherever they had to; they could show the powers that there was no reason for them to be singled out and discriminated against. And that meant being dedicated to excellence in the face of overwhelming difficulty.

If we can work hard at what we’re doing; even when it isn’t work we’d prefer and especially when it feels beneath us. We build for ourselves a deep well of character and consistency that will bring us success in the highest reaches of human achievement. But if we cannot sweep with dignity and with focus, with excellence, we will never get there.

The Small Things Matter

The small things, the trivial unimportant stuff you think isn’t a huge deal, those things matter in the long run. You cannot draw water from an empty well, if you spent 35% of your time blowing things off because they feel unimportant, you won’t be able to throw your full self into the things you think are important.

@HowYouDo Andrew johnson tailor shopPresident Andrew Johnson worked as a tailor before pursuing a career in politics. At one point a heckler tried to rile him up by making fun of his working-class background and his response was perfect:

“That does not disconcert me in the least; for when I used to be a tailor I had the reputation of being a good one, and making close fits, always punctual with my customers, and always did good work.”

Johnson recognized that his work as a tailor was not a detriment to his abilities as a politician, that what he learned then would carry through to his work wherever it took him. In case you’ve not brushed up on your history in a while, it took him to the Vice President’s chair. Then, when Abraham Lincoln was assassinated, he assumed the Presidency himself.

Other American Presidents have come from humble beginnings, James Garfield worked as a janitor at the college he attended at the same time. He would clean all morning far earlier than most people were awake, then he’d ring the bell for the school day to begin and trot off to class.

Ryan Holiday puts the next part of Garfield’s story well: “Within just one year of starting at the school, he was a professor — teaching a full course load in addition to his studies. By his twenty-sixth birthday, he was the dean.

Beyond the Employee Mindset

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The employee mindset, the idea that one should get away with as much as possible is lazy. And doesn’t just hurt their boss or the company they’re working for. This hurts us just as much when we engage in it. We’re selling ourselves short, and we’re training ourselves to cut corners and take the easy way out. When life really gets hard and something difficult stands between us and our dreams. The easy way out will be quitting and we’ll be that much more likely to do it.

That’s why great employees are offered opportunities and some stay in the same place or are fired. Great employees who have shown to be faithful with smaller responsibility get promoted. Or someone else takes notice of their skill and they move on to bigger and better things. Poor employees stagnate at the entry level, where expectations are low and where the pay and the satisfaction are too.

“The limit [read: the category] does not exist.” – Mean Girls

We tend to split our lives up into categories in our minds, arbitrarily separating things into important or unimportant areas, happy or frustrating places, etc. Our brains love categorization, we do it naturally and sometimes it can be really helpful. But this pattern also creates immense blind spots that we sometimes need extra help to notice.

Carolina Caro

Carolina Caro is not the sort of person you’d expect to need help with motivation or consistency. She’s a top-notch Leadership Coach and a contributor to publications like Forbes. But in this recent piece she wrote about a time when a client at one of her workshops helped her notice; something she’d been blind to for a while:

“I was heading out to my car, carrying a ton of things, when one of the participants asked me if he could help. I turned him down, despite the fact that I was obviously struggling on my own. He persisted until I accepted his offer. He was able to point out that he had previously extended his assistance at other sessions. And I had consistently refused. It was only at that moment, as he stood there perplexed about my inability to accept help. I was able to even acknowledge the behavioral pattern that I had been repeating without any self-awareness. That day, a huge blind spot was revealed, and the possibility of a transformational shift opened up for me.”

One of the things Caro always did when working with clients after uncovering a blind spot or a similar issue like the one she had just recognized was to ask this question:

“How else might this be showing up in my life?”

@HowYouDo Mind categoriesThese categories we set up in our minds of “work, relationships, important things, dumb things” aren’t actually separated by anything at all, we’re the same person in every environment. Which means that who we are and what blind spots we have likely affect us in each of them.

Caro recognized that this unwillingness to let people help her had created a false distance between herself and the people around her that did not need to be there. In fact, it was actually making her life harder. “I was surrounded by people who cared about me and genuinely wanted to help me. But unfortunately, I was robbing myself of the opportunity to receive support in an unconscious attempt to be Superwoman.”

Areas of our life

Not only is this true, that who we bleed into every area of our life; good and bad, but also the reverse is true. Every area of our life is going to affect all the other ones. Who you are at work is going to have an impact on who you are in your circle of friends, who you are with your friends is going to impact who you are at home, etc. Actually, it is more important for our conversation to frame this about what you do in each of these environments.

If we are lazy in one area of our life because we think it is fine if we cut corners there, that is going to affect our drive in other areas as well. Our brains are great at forming habits, but not great at recognizing categories. The little neurological kick we get out of blowing something off feels the same whether it is blowing off the sort of thing you’d get fired for at work or blowing off something small like taking the garbage out when you’re at home; our brains don’t know when to lay a behavior and its response into the habit-forming centers and when not to. So that means that laziness in one area of your life will bleed into the other areas. Everything is connected, so everything is important.

This is becoming more widely recognized in the world today, which is why we hear so much more about work-life integration instead of work-life separation.

Take It From The Rock: No Work is Stupid

@HowYouDo Dwayne Johnson 8557345508Professional wrestling is not a form of entertainment known for its nuance, its creativity, or for being a gateway to success as an actor. It’s a genre frequently mocked in all forms all across America. But Dwayne Johnson didn’t see it that way. Born to a professional wrestling family, he stepped into the ring only after a football injury meant he couldn’t play professionally. Professional wrestling was his Plan B. The hours are awful, and the WWE is not known for treating its performers well, but he pushed himself to become one of the most successful professional wrestlers in the franchise’s history.

But he didn’t stop there, Johnson was able to parlay his success in the WWE into roles working in movies like The Scorpion King and others, eventually landing more and more critically and commercially successful films as time went on. Recently he voiced Maui, a bonafide animated Disney movie demigod, for Moana; which joined super hits like Frozen and Zootopia in terms of worldwide profits.

I’m sure plenty of people rolled their eyes at Dwayne Johnson while he was working in the WWE. And while he was doing small roles as monsters or thugs in various movies over the years. But he understood that how you do anything is how you do everything and that his dedication would pay off. I think it is safe to say that it has.  

Q&A

I have been good at exceeding my job expectations. I work hard and I have done everything possible to show my faithfulness to my boss but I still keep getting passed up from promotions. What should I do?

Well, this depends tremendously on where you’re working and where you’re at with your job. Sometimes you’ve gotta grind it out for a long time before getting the role you’re after. Especially if you’re in a creative industry where jobs are harder to find.

It also depends on who your superiors are and whether or not the culture of your workspace is healthy. I’d get together with a mentor who is in a position you want to be in and lay it all out. Ask what you should be doing to get to the next stage. And there’s a decent chance they might tell you to look for that position somewhere else.

My life is a mess, I don’t feel like I’m doing anything well and that means that everything I’m doing is suffering, how do I get back on track?

Remember, it is the small things that matter. The reason that’s true is that small thing stack up until they build momentum. And then suddenly you’ll notice yourself operating at a much higher level. Also, everything is connected, so if you’re broke, depressed, not eating well, and working a job you hate; those things are all playing off of one another.

So take one of those things and focus on it until you see some improvement. Then set a goal with the next area and push at it until you succeed there too. Don’t bounce desperately back and forth between things, focus on one thing at a time.

I think you’ll find that over time it all gets easier because that interconnectedness works positively as well as negatively. If you’re eating well you’re far more likely to be in a better mood. This also means you’ll connect easier with people at your job, which means you’ll be more likely to perform well and earn a raise or a promotion, which leads to more money, which leads to better eating and less stress, which leads to a better mood, which leads to (you get the point, I can go on here forever).

So start small, and start focused. You can do it!

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  • ChangeStartsNow
    June 18, 2019

    A few years ago I experienced one of the most intense setbacks of my life. My grandmother, who I was very close to, passed away after a battle with cancer. After that I was in a relationship that devastated me emotionally, the band I was leading broke up and I lost most of my closest friends all in the same five month period. Not only that, but I quit my job working as a Creative Director at a church (at that point both the easiest and most well-paid job I’d ever done) and found myself as a bartender at a movie theater chain a month of unemployment later.

    The bartending job was temporary, I recognized that I’d been stuck in the same city for years and that all of this was the final push I needed to move somewhere new and pursue my goals. It would take a few months to get all of my things together and set up for the move, so I took the job in the meantime for some extra cash and to fill the time I had been filling with band practice and friends who weren’t speaking to me anymore. The trauma of my grandmother’s passing plus the loss of people who were like my second family created such an intense vacancy that the repetitive work of bartending was incredibly comforting.
    And it was easy. I already knew a lot about movies and the expectations on employees in this particular theater were unbelievably low. That I showed up on time to shifts, wore my uniform, knew how to have a conversation, and didn’t randomly decide I wasn’t going to come in when I was scheduled made me an instant favorite in the eyes of most of the management team.

    It would have been very easy to coast here, to slack on the duties that were being put in front of me. No one would notice if I didn’t mop behind the bar after every single shift, no one was checking. I was used to driving the creative direction for services with hundreds (sometimes thousands) of people in them, designing logos and branding and all sorts of creative and exciting work. But something inside me knew that I needed to be just as diligent in this setting as I was in my previous one. *Because how you do anything is how you do everything.*

    So I went and found the mop bucket, and hosed it out again before returning to my bar after I was finished. The results were life-changing. Mopping, wiping bottles, helping answer questions and ensuring employees were being held to a higher standard in that temporary movie theater job meant my boss not only liked scheduling me and trusted I would do a good job, she wanted to help me to succeed because I had been such a benefit to her company.

    Which meant when my boss had a friend throwing the annual gathering of a wealthy neighborhood association and that friend didn’t know how to find good live music in time for the event, she knew that I was a reliable person and worthy of her trust.

    She found out I played in bands and was a musician when I interviewed for the job a year before, and she had never listened to me play. But she knew my work ethic, she knew how I treated the small stuff. Which meant that she was willing to put her reputation on the line by connecting me to that friend. I made more money in that one night playing that gathering than I made in two full weeks at the bar. That money helped me move, and that got me to where I am now.

    • admin
      June 18, 2019

      Awesome story, keep it up and don’t change your work ethic!

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